what determins the division of happiness?

so i was at a coffee shop today with some friends and we were laughing really hard at a joke one of them said.. u know when u laugh so much u cry?!! it was actually exhausting.. anyhow, we were enjoying ourselves when one of my friends suddenly said "allah yikfeena shar i'6i7k" as in -may God prevent the evils after laughter- well not literally, but that's the best i can do!!

basically, this is some sort of superstition we have in Saudi (not quite sure of it's presence anywhere else). but many people believe that if you laugh too much in the day u will end up in tears by the fall of night, so they pray to God to keep them safe from the evils that come after laughter

note: this superstition is not religious in any way

so i thought about this for a moment and asked my friend why she would actually believe she wasn't allowed to laugh too much or else she would be punished?!! i personally feel that if you believe u deserve to be happy, i mean truly believe, u will be!! i think we should try to adopt a very positive attitude towards life..


another one of our friends had an interesting point of view.. he was saying that he believes that everyone gets their fair share of happiness and misery.. eventually all the sadness u felt in your life will be balanced out by the happiness..

it's funny how all of a sudden, everything went serious and u got a pessimistic, positive and realistic attitude towards happiness..

after that discussion, i decided that i shall not fear happiness, i shall not expect it, nor shall i believe in the equilibrium.. i have decided not to take life too seriously and stop discussing gifts from God such as happiness and just be thankful for them..

The End

:)

the day was perfect

she felt great

she looked great

the song on her ipod was exactly right for the mood

it never happened.....

today was not the day

she didn't really care

she was tired and hungry

no expectations

it happened :)

When were you born?!!

YAWARAKAI
Born 6th August 1984

You were born on a Monday.
Your star sign is Leo.
Your birthstone is Peridot.
The season was Summer.
You were born in the Chinese year of the Rat.
The US President was Ronald Reagan (Republican).
The UK Prime Minister was Margaret Thatcher (Conservative).
Monday's child is fair of face.
You are 23 years 10 months 24 days old.
It is 37 days until your next birthday.
In dog years you are 3 years old.
You are 8,729 days old.
You are approximately 209,515 hours old.
You are approximately 754,252,827 seconds old.

www.dayofbirth.co.uk

I haven't blogged in ages!

hello

So my summer holidays have begun, my family are here in London.. very hectic, very noisy but fun nonetheless.. i have begun running.. i can barely move half the time because my muscles hurt!! when do u get over than again?!!


Other than that, i have joined Second life.. I'm really enjoying it!! I've made a few friends and also met a lot of weirdos.. but it's cool that u get to be who ever the hell u want to be!! i still haven't learned how to be someone I'm not yet haha.. despite the fact that i look Japanese in the game!


One of my babies is sick.. i gave her some new cat food and now she's throwing up all over the place.. it's sad,, and disgusting :(


My friends birthday is coming up in a few days, were planning a birthday weekend for her.. her birthday is on a Sunday.. there is a hotel here in London which offers a package for a "girls' night in" basically, u stay at the hotel for a night, u get pampered, watch chick-flicks and have full use of the spa and the swimming pool.. we booked that for Saturday.. (we r 5 girls by the way.. how we r going to fit, i have NO idea!!).. and on Sunday, we r having a BBQ in the park.. with a HUGE chocolate cupcake for her birthday cake :D


I will try to blog more often!! have a great summer everyone!!

Random

-I just finished my exams!!! i'm relieved.. yet i can't help but feel that i just studied too hard for nothing!! i didn't do so great on 3 of them!! or maybe i just didn't study in the way ur supposed to.. whatever way that is.. on one of them,, i wasn't sure if the answer i was writing was the answer to question 1 or 3!! i usually know more or less how i did on the exam when i'm done.. this time,, i have noo idea.. i guess i'll have to wait till July and c


-on another note, i just got my first ever pay-check.. since this is my first ever real job!! it's a good feeling!! the thing is,, i'm not quite sure what to do with the money.. i don't just want to go shopping.. or spend it on something stupid.. i kind of want to frame the check!! how stupid does that sound?!!


-i wanted to thank everyone for their supportive comments on my last post.. and give u a bit of an update on my progress.. i have a counter to show how long it's been since i quit.. but it's not that accurate because i cheated!! i had three cigarettes over the past 12 days.. not bad compared to what i used to smoke.. but i joined the NHS "together" programme which is this support for people who want to quit smoking thingi.. and they told me that i should give myself some time to process the thought of quitting and set a date when i REALLLY won't ever have a ciggi again.. so i did.. i chose the last day of exams which was yesterday.. maybe i should change the counter on my page.. they r really helpful and they send u all these supportive text messages and e-mails and stuff.. it's cool..


-my brother and sister are all back in Saudi, i haven't been alone in the house for over a year.. well i'm not exactly alone, i have my cats :) (the most beautiful creatures in the world).. it was strange in the beginning because i kept hearing noises and doors being opened and i was getting all paranoid.. now i'm just reeeaaallly enjoying the peace.. i forgot how much i like living alone!!


-i just realised that my family are probably reading this.. so this is just a clarification.. that doesn't mean i don't miss u guys!!! i'll probably get bored of the quiet in a few days.. haha


i'm off to do... ummm.. something.... i'm not sure what yet.. but something that is not study related (FINALLLLY)

ciao

an opinion anyone?!..

i was reading this post (To you, women of arabia..) by trevelyana on (http://trevelyana.wordpress.com/) and it got me thinking.. although what i have to say has'nt much to do with what she was saying.. i realised that the problem lies mostly within our society.. if the majority do this, then u must do the same..


since i was a little girl at school. i have never been asked for my opinion, if you take a look at the Saudi educational system, it is mostly based on memorising texts, and reciting what you have learned (word for word) at an exam. ur opinion is not of any interest to your markers. when i went abroad to study, i found that analytical skills were of the essence. in order to pass an exam, you must show understanding of the topic, and have AN OPINION, rather than reciting the author's opinion from the book you used to study.

Thankfully, my thoughts were not completely neglected growing up. as my opinion would be taken into consideration in the house were i grew up.

However, on the larger scale, as a society i am sorry to say that the majority of people need guidance before taking any steps. more distressing, people need to be guided on how to think. examples of this may be seen socially; what is socially accepted and what is not, does not necessarily make sense, but it is what u have been taught to think. even when it comes to religion, people will not take any actions (even minor ones) until they get the approval of a scholar (despite how dodgy his/her background may be)

as an Arab, u also learn to blame ur problems on other people or factors,, so today,, i have decided to blame the educational system in Saudi..

p.s. on the educational note, froggy ur right, exam time is the best time to blog!!!

p.p.s. sorry i don't know how to link the post

speaking up for Lebanon

a strong speech by Sahar ALKhatib




very true.....